Focus on an Actions' Benefits

When you want to influence someone to do something beneficial - but which involves difficulty and pain - use the following strategy: At first, focus him on all the benefits to be gained by doing as you suggest. Only then should you mention the specific course of action you have in mind. Since a person's attitude is a key factor in the difficulty and pain he will experience, when you use this approach, his desire to attain those benefits will decrease the pain of the necessary effort.

In general, this is a useful principle to bear in mind for anyone who wishes to take a positive action which involves some unpleasantness. Focus on the benefits and not on the pain.

Today, think of something that you know you should do but have been pushing off. Write a list of all the benefits you will gain by doing it.

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PKRAUSE

that is good advice

dgrimm60

Wish It Was So

Wouldn't it be wonderful if you could have all your wishes fulfilled? We assume that if a person's big wishes come true, then happiness will be a cinch. Not necessarily so. Even if a wish is fulfilled, it could be disappointing. I remember hearing a story about an entire city where everyone was blessed that one wish of theirs would be fulfilled. Most of the people wished to win the large city's lottery. And they all chose the winning number. Since the grand prize was going to be divided among all those who made the correct choice, they had to divide the large amount of money between a large amount of people. The actual amount won was therefore only a few dollars each.

A great Chasidic master once gave this formula for having your wishes met. "If things don't go the way you wish, wish them to go the way they are," advised Rabbi Mordechai of Lechivitz.

Spiritually, what is best for you is what is. Therefore if you were able to see all of reality, you would really wish for exactly what is best for you, which is your actual experiences.

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PKRAUSE

I have heard many people that said if only
they could live life over it would be better

but I have read that if you could live your
life over you would still make the same choices

dgrimm60

Yes dgrimm I've heard the same thing. Jesus kind of touches on this, when some people ask him to bring Abraham back to life and he tells them that that would not make any difference.

pk

Worrying Is Not Your Job

Some people are so used to their career or business, that they feel tremendous anxiety over the possibility of losing their job, or of their product becoming obsolete.

This worry is analogous to a certain blacksmith's statement, "How fortunate I am that I chose to become a blacksmith. If I would have become a jeweler, I would have starved to death. In the 30 years that I have been a blacksmith, not one person approached me about jewelry."

The Almighty can always supply a person with different ways of earning a living. If until now you chose one way, you can still be successful in many other ways.

pk

PKRAUSE

THIS is good advice

dgrimm60

Wish It Was So

Wouldn't it be wonderful if you could have all your wishes fulfilled? We assume that if a person's big wishes come true, then happiness will be a cinch. Not necessarily so. Even if a wish is fulfilled, it could be disappointing. I remember hearing a story about an entire city where everyone was blessed that one wish of theirs would be fulfilled. Most of the people wished to win the large city's lottery. And they all chose the winning number. Since the grand prize was going to be divided among all those who made the correct choice, they had to divide the large amount of money between a large amount of people. The actual amount won was therefore only a few dollars each.

A great Chasidic master once gave this formula for having your wishes met. "If things don't go the way you wish, wish them to go the way they are," advised Rabbi Mordechai of Lechivitz.

Spiritually, what is best for you is what is. Therefore if you were able to see all of reality, you would really wish for exactly what is best for you, which is your actual experiences.

pk

Worrying Is Not Your Job

Some people are so used to their career or business, that they feel tremendous anxiety over the possibility of losing their job, or of their product becoming obsolete.

This worry is analogous to a certain blacksmith's statement, "How fortunate I am that I chose to become a blacksmith. If I would have become a jeweler, I would have starved to death. In the 30 years that I have been a blacksmith, not one person approached me about jewelry."

The Almighty can always supply a person with different ways of earning a living. If until now you chose one way, you can still be successful in many other ways.

pk

Rise Above Personal Grievances

The editor of a journal once slandered and ridiculed Rabbi Yoel Teitlebaum. Some time later, the editor came to the rabbi to discuss his financial difficulties. His daughter was engaged to be married but lacked sufficient funds to purchase an apartment. After the rabbi gave him a large sum of money, someone whispered in his ear, "Don't you know who that is?"

"Of course I do," replied the rabbi. Then, after a moment's hesitation, he called back the editor and gave him even more.

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