Love Makes For Allowances

The Chazon Ish wrote: A person who has reached a proper level of love for others will not feel hurt or anger by what they say to him. Love has the ability to cancel all wrongdoings. Although he personally will be meticulously careful to show respect to everyone, he realizes that the majority of people have not perfected their character traits, and so he does not have excessive expectations about others. Such an elevated person will not have to constrain himself to not feel anger or the pain of embarrassment, for he is in a constant state of happiness.

Though the level the Chazon Ish describes takes much working on oneself to achieve, it is humanly possible to obtain, and we should strive to travel in that direction.

About this and similar ideals, I often quote my teacher, Rabbi Gavriel Ginsberg, who said, "When you reach for the stars, you might not catch any. But at least you won't get your hands in the mud."

pk

PKRAUSE

about you 1st post

yes WE need to be happy with what every job
we have and also be thankful

dgrimm60

PKRAUSE

about your 2nd post

yes WE should all be thankful of something in our lifes

dgrimm60

PKRKAUSE

ABOUT you 3rd post

the quote about reaching for the stars but
not getting you hands in the mud is a very good one

dgrimm60

Focus Reinforces

Whatever you focus on gets reinforced. Focus on serenity. Use the word "serenity" frequently. Get in the habit of saying sentences like, "I would like to be more serene." "My goal is to master serenity." "I will be aware of what I can do to increase my serenity." "The way of serenity is going to be my way."

pk

PKRAUSE

YES I agree about what we forus on gets reinforced..

dgrimm60

Channeling Desires

It is impossible for a person to remove all desires. But we have the ability to channel our desires from physical and material pleasures to spiritual endeavors.

This is analogous to a person who went to a fancy restaurant where two full plates of food were presented to him. One was full of fish and the other was full of meat. There was too much food for him to eat both dishes. Since he liked fish better, he chose the fish and pushed the plate with meat to the side.

Another person walked by and looked at him with amazement. The second man, who liked meat much more than fish, thought to himself, "How could this person who has a plate full of delicious meat decline to eat it?" The second person made a mistake. The first person was not overcoming a desire to eat meat.

Rather he was gratifying his desire for fish, which he enjoyed more than meat. Similarly, someone who finds fulfillment in spiritual matters is not being deprived of pleasure. Rather he is gaining more pleasure than is possible in material matters.

pk

PKRAUSE

THIS is a very good thought

dgrimm60

Access Better States

Your feelings are all temporary. When you are in an unresourceful state, you can calmly and objectively say to yourself, "I am in an unresourceful state right now. Let me think of ways to access a more resourceful state." The more frequently you access serene states, joyous states, empowered states, humorous states, enthusiastic states, and creative states, the more likely these will be your real, spontaneous, automatic feelings. This takes practice. Enjoy the entire process.

pk

PKRAUSE

YES a positive statement is very stong

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